8 Ways the Most Attractive Women Reinvent Themselves After Every Breakup

You are sad and heartbroken. Life changes radically. The person you spent the most time with is no longer a part of your life. Yes, it hurts. But this is also a huge opportunity to reinvent yourself.

Relationships shape us and we become different than we were. Sometimes who we become in a relationship is so far from who we want to be that we need to start from scratch. The question is, how do we reinvent ourselves after a breakup?

Here are 8 ways the most attractive women reinvent themselves after a breakup.

1. Get rid of unfinished tasks

It can be tempting to preserve memories, both big and small. Objects that represent your love are often found in your environment. The plans you kept together may still be floating around in your head.

The more you clear things up and open doors to new things, the faster you can discover the new you and create the new life you crave.

2. Be light-hearted and have fun

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Nothing looks better for you than laughter and happiness. The sadness of your breakup may be weighing you down. The easiest way to deal with this heaviness is to make sure you have fun.

Try doing something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t done because you convinced yourself it was impractical or too frivolous. Create silly moments of novelty based on the article in Journal of Digital Creativity.

Adding moments of happiness and fun into your life will help you feel better about yourself and become more creative as you consider rethinking your life as a whole.

3. Pay attention to how you look

You can dress carefully or throw the first thing that comes to hand into a dark closet. The Oxford Handbook of the Psychology of Appearance explains why we all have a certain part of our personality associated with our appearance.

When we’re unsure about other parts of our personality (like after a breakup), it’s easy to get thrown out of our normal appearance and personality.

The practice of making choices about how you look will help you reconnect with yourself and take a simple and fun step in reinventing yourself. Looking good for yourself (and not for anyone else) is healthy and beneficial at any time.

4. Pay attention to how you feel

I’m not talking about the sadness you feel as a result of a breakup. I’m talking about things, small and big, that bring a smile to your face or make you feel good inside. If you want to create a new version of yourself that you like even more than the current model, you need to start paying attention to what you like and what you don’t.

The easiest way to do this is to pay attention to how you feel when you do something. If you are not feeling well, you may need to stop doing this activity and start doing things differently.

5. Spend time with people who love the real you.

Nothing helps you move on and feel strong enough to try new things, like being seen by people who understand and love you for who you are. KP Langford, University of South Carolinahighlights the importance of taking time to recharge your batteries by surrounding yourself with people who truly appreciate you for who you are.

Even better, if these people give you this support, they will also accept the changes you plan to make!

6. Spend time alone with yourself

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Time spent alone is necessary to ensure that you are connected to yourself and your emotions. Moving on after a breakup is less a matter of keeping going and more about a healthy balance of activity and self-reflection.

Research in Journal of Evolutionary Psychology explores the costs and breakup strategies that help give yourself the time you need to just be, feel your feelings, and imagine your wide-open future.

7. Rekindle your dreams

When we are in relationships, they begin to shape who we are. Sometimes the dreams we had when we were single get pushed to the wayside because they don’t fit well into a relationship.

Now is a great time to bring those dreams back to the forefront and create new dreams!

8. Don’t look back

Once the grieving process is over and you have mourned what was lost, there is no point in going back to the memories. If you find yourself replaying events in your relationship, tormenting yourself about the “good times,” or ruminating about what you could have done differently, try doing something from this list instead.

A new you awaits you in the future, not in the past. The more you can realize the potential of the future, the easier it will be to reinvent yourself.

Dr. Keith Siner is a teacher, mentor, spiritual director and author who has appeared on NBC, ABC, Fox and other major television networks on spiritual and personal development. She has appeared on WPRO, MX Talk of the Town, Consciousness Network and TalkStream Radio.

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