Tips for dealing with family tension during the holidays

BIRMINGHAM, Ala. (WBRC) – As the holiday season approaches, families are getting ready to get together and celebrate. While these events are meant to be fun and connect, sometimes they bring up difficult conversations and long-standing issues that can create tension. Experts in family dynamics and mental health share their thoughts on how to handle these moments with care.

Crystal Mullen-Johnson, CEO and founder of Strive Counseling Services, explained that family meetings often bring up sensitive topics, from political debates to unresolved family issues. Mullen-Johnson advised that setting clear boundaries will help keep the holidays peaceful. She encouraged people to be honest when conversations became uncomfortable.

“You can say: “I don’t like this conversation.” You have control over how you react, and sometimes that means you need to step away,” Mullen-Johnson said. She suggested allowing yourself to walk away from conversations that seem emotionally charged.

To help shift the focus to unity, Mullen-Johnson recommended emphasizing gratitude and shared memories as conversation starters. Reflecting on positive experiences and accomplishments can create common ground and reduce tension.

In those moments when conflict seemed inevitable, she suggested managing expectations and letting go of the need to be right. “Sometimes it’s about letting go of the need to be right. Remember, this is a time for connection, not division,” she said.

Experts urged families to view the holidays as an opportunity to support each other and create meaningful memories. This season, focusing on gratitude and togetherness can help make gatherings more enjoyable and rewarding for everyone.

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