Can Americans discuss political differences respectfully? Yes, says the Minnesota pastor.

Like most Americans, Reverend Jerad Morey has a relative who disagrees with all of his political views, and vice versa. But at family gatherings, Mori and his uncle, instead of avoiding the topic, always get together and spend some time discussing politics.

And understand – they both enjoy these conversations.

The 45-year-old New Brighton resident has a superpower many might covet: he’s an expert at how to have respectful conversations about controversial issues.

As director of strategic relations for the Minnesota Council of Churches, Morey leads the council’s Respectful Conversations program, which is described as “structured, facilitated conversations designed not to change minds, but to soften hearts.”

Since Respectful Conversations began in 2012, about 8,500 people in churches, community centers and college campuses have gathered to discuss potentially polarizing topics such as gay marriage, race relations and guns, he said. This year, when political divisions are particularly high, about 650 people signed up to attend the organization’s latest series of “Having a Respectful Conversation About This Election” sessions.

Maury has written and spoken about managing conflict, showing empathy, and strengthening relationships with various media and audiences, and was named the 2024-2025 Obama Foundation USA Leader.

As the nation wearily approaches what will hopefully be the end of a tense and particularly contentious political season, Morey offered tips on how to discuss politics and other sensitive topics while remaining civil and respectful. In the end, even after November 5, Americans will still find something to disagree about.

Spoiler alert: Mori doesn’t have the secret to converting your grumpy cousin or naive niece to your own views by showing them why they’re wrong and you’re right—or perhaps any other way. The good news is that you can get along with people despite political differences, or at least get through your upcoming Thanksgiving dinner without throwing a gravy boat at the person across from you. The interview has been edited for length and clarity.